Caring for a Parent or Older Relative

Caring for a parent or older relative can be both an act of love and a significant responsibility. While it may strengthen bonds, it can also bring emotional, physical, and financial pressures. Approaching this role with balance helps protect both your wellbeing and your relationship with your relative.

What It Feels Like

Caring for a parent or older relative may bring:

• Emotional: love, pride, guilt, or sadness about their decline
• Relational: role reversal as you support someone who once cared for you
• Mental: stress about making decisions or managing their care
• Physical: fatigue from practical responsibilities or frequent travel

Everyday Tools & Practical Tips

• Open communication: talk honestly with your relative about their needs and wishes.
• Organisation: keep track of appointments, medications, and finances.
• Share responsibility: involve siblings, extended family, or services.
• Respect autonomy: allow your relative to make decisions where possible.
• Self-care: protect time for rest, hobbies, and your own relationships.

Longer-Term Approaches

• Future planning: discuss legal, financial, and medical wishes early.
• Support networks: connect with carer groups or community organisations.
• Professional input: seek guidance from GPs, social workers, or specialists.
• Therapy: counselling can help process emotions around role changes.
• EAP: Wellbeing Solutions’ EAP provides confidential support for employees managing elder care stress.

When to Seek Professional Help

• You feel overwhelmed or unable to manage responsibilities alone
• Care duties affect your health, relationships, or work performance
• Conflicts with family members escalate and feel unmanageable

Moving Forward

Caring for an older relative can be demanding, but with planning, support, and open communication, it is possible to balance care with respect and compassion while protecting your own wellbeing.