Concerns of Risky Behaviour in Others

It can be distressing to notice signs of risky behaviour in someone you care about. Risky behaviours may include self-harm, suicidal thoughts, substance misuse, unsafe sexual practices, reckless driving, or other actions that put health and safety at risk. Supporting someone in these circumstances requires compassion, patience, and awareness of when to involve professional help.

Crisis Notice

If someone is in immediate danger of harming themselves or others, call emergency services right away. Do not wait or try to manage the situation alone. Safety is the first priority.

What It Feels Like

Caring for someone engaging in risky behaviours can affect you as well:

• Emotional impact: worry, guilt, frustration, or fear for their safety
• Mental impact: constant preoccupation with their wellbeing, difficulty concentrating on your own life
• Relational impact: tension, conflict, or feeling helpless when efforts to help seem ineffective

It is important to recognise your role – you can support, but you cannot control another person’s actions.

Everyday Tools & Practical Tips

Ways to respond when you notice concerning behaviours:

• Open conversation: ask gently how they are feeling and let them know you care
• Listen: create space for them to talk without judgment or interruption
• Encourage support: suggest professional help such as counselling, crisis hotlines, or a GP appointment
• Share resources: provide information about services available in your area
• Protect yourself: remember to set boundaries to protect your own health and energy

Longer-Term Approaches

Strategies for sustained support include:

• Consistency: continue to check in and show care without pressuring them
• Encourage routines: support healthy habits such as sleep, nutrition, and gentle activity
• Build networks: involve trusted family, friends, or community groups who can share responsibility
• Education: learn about the behaviours or conditions they are struggling with to understand more fully
• Self-care: prioritise your wellbeing to avoid burnout while supporting someone else

When to Seek Professional Help

It is important to escalate concerns if:

• The person expresses suicidal thoughts, self-harm, or intent to act on harmful behaviours
• Their behaviour creates serious risk to themselves or others
• They refuse help but their condition worsens significantly
• Supporting them leaves you feeling overwhelmed or unsafe

Moving Forward

Supporting someone with risky behaviours can be challenging, but your role matters. By showing compassion, encouraging professional help, and taking care of yourself, you can provide meaningful support without carrying the responsibility alone. Help is available, and you do not have to face it without guidance.