Catfishing

Catfishing occurs when someone creates a false online identity to deceive others, often in the context of romantic relationships. This can range from minor misrepresentation to serious fraud or manipulation. Recognising the signs of catfishing and protecting yourself online is essential for safety and wellbeing.

What It Feels Like

Catfishing may leave someone feeling:

• Emotional: betrayal, shame, embarrassment, or hurt
• Relational: distrust of future online connections
• Mental: overthinking, self-blame, or suspicion of others
• Physical: stress symptoms such as fatigue, headaches, or disrupted sleep

Everyday Tools & Practical Tips

• Verify: check identities through video calls, mutual contacts, or reliable platforms.
• Red flags: be cautious of people who avoid meeting in person, ask for money, or provide inconsistent stories.
• Protect privacy: avoid sharing personal details such as addresses, financial information, or intimate images.
• Report: use platform tools to block or report suspicious behaviour.
• Support: confide in trusted friends or use Wellbeing Solutions’ EAP for confidential guidance.

Longer-Term Approaches

• Education: stay up-to-date on online safety practices.
• Resilience: remind yourself that deception is the responsibility of the catfisher, not the victim.
• Therapy: explore feelings of betrayal, self-worth, or anxiety that linger after an incident.
• Boundaries: set limits on what you share online and establish safe dating habits.

When to Seek Professional Help

• Catfishing causes significant emotional distress or anxiety about online interactions
• Financial harm, fraud, or blackmail is involved
• Feelings of betrayal significantly impact trust or future relationships

Moving Forward

Being catfished can be painful, but it is not a reflection of your worth. By prioritising safety, recognising red flags, and seeking support, you can protect yourself online and rebuild confidence in future relationships.