Abuse in Relationships

Abuse in relationships can take many forms – physical, emotional, sexual, or financial. Unlike healthy conflict, abuse involves patterns of control, intimidation, and harm. Recognising abuse and seeking safety are essential steps toward recovery and protection.

What It Feels Like

Abuse may involve:

• Emotional: fear, shame, confusion, or feeling “on edge”
• Relational: walking on eggshells, loss of autonomy, or isolation from support
• Physical: injuries, exhaustion, or health issues from chronic stress
• Mental: self-doubt, guilt, or feeling trapped

Everyday Tools & Practical Tips

• Acknowledge reality: trust your instincts – abuse is never acceptable.
• Document: keep a record of incidents, if safe to do so.
• Safety plan: identify safe spaces, emergency contacts, and escape routes.
• Confidential support: Wellbeing Solutions’ EAP can provide confidential advice and connect you to resources.
• National helplines: in the UK, Refuge’s National Domestic Abuse Helpline (0808 2000 247) is available 24/7.

Longer-Term Approaches

• Counselling: trauma-informed support can help survivors rebuild confidence and safety.
• Legal protection: consider restraining orders or legal advice where needed.
• Recovery: focus on rebuilding identity, self-worth, and autonomy.
• Support groups: connect with others who have survived abuse for validation and encouragement.

When to Seek Professional Help

• Any suspicion of physical, sexual, or severe emotional abuse
• Immediate risk to safety of yourself or children
• Escalating threats, control, or intimidation

In emergencies, call 999 (UK) or the local emergency number. Professional services and helplines are essential resources for safety and recovery.

Moving Forward

Abuse is never the victim’s fault. With support, safety planning, and professional help, it is possible to escape abusive dynamics and rebuild a life of dignity and security.