How can I overcome fear of commitment? Q1 (Lisa

A fear of commitment is quite common but it doesn't mean that you are broken or incapable of love.

It's the fear about what commitment represents a loss of freedom, fear of being hurt, repeating past mistakes, or not trusting your own choices.

Try to take the time to work through what's beneath the fear rather than forcing yourself to commit.

Start by getting specific about what your fears are.

For some people it's anxiety about being trapped, for others it's the fear of abandonment or perfectionism.

Identify your patterns.

Do you feel yourself pulling away when things get serious?

Lose interest once someone likes you back?

Overanalyse small flaws?

These behaviours are protective strategies that kept you safe previously, but now they're limiting you.

Try reframing commitment by seeing it as a series of choices that you're making that can be reassessed over time rather than viewing it as a permanent prison.

Seeing it as flexible instead of final can lower the stakes enough to engage with it.

Practical exposure like staying present when things start to feel too real instead of pulling away immediately.

Communicate honestly even when it feels risky.

Let them know you over time instead of keeping distance and try to build trust in yourself because commitment fear can be self-doubt.

If the fear feels strong or rooted in the past, experiences like difficult relationships growing up or painful breakups, talking through it with a therapist might help you to untangle the deeper patterns instead of just managing the symptoms.