How can I ask for help without feeling like I’m failing?
Relationships | Parenting Stress
Counsellor: Alessandra
Published: 14 Apr 2026

Parenting is one of the most demanding things a person can do, and feeling like you're struggling does not mean you're doing it wrong, as parenting stress is real and it is common, and asking for help isn't a sign of failure, but it's actually one of the most honest and self-aware things you can do as a parent.

Now just take a moment to take a slow breath and place a hand on your chest.

And ask yourself if a close friend came to me and said they were struggling, what would I say to them?

Now whatever the answer is, try offering those same words to yourself.

Is that what self-compassion looks like?

As parenting is hard and you deserve the same kindness you would give someone else without the hesitation.

Now the idea that good parents cope alone is one worth questioning.

So needing support has nothing to do with how much you love your children or how capable you are, and asking for help is a skill, and reframing it as something you would do for your family rather than something you would admit in defeat over can make it feel a little bit more manageable.

And start small, you don't have to explain everything or justify yourself all the time.

Just a simple I'm finding things hard at the moment, could you help me with this one thing is more than enough.

And practical ways to support yourself with this is think about one person in your life that you trust, whether that's a partner, friend, family member, another parent, and consider what it would actually look like to ask them for something specific.

Practical help, a conversation, or just someone to check in with.

And being clear about what you need makes it easier for people to show up for you as well.

So if parenting feels isolated, connecting with other parents, whether in person or online, can remind you that you're far from being alone in this.

Now if stress is becoming a constant and is affecting your mood, your relationships, or how you feel day-to-day, then please speak to your GP as they can refer you to talking therapies or other local support services.

And there are family support services and parenting programs are also available and are there specifically for moments like this as well.

And you can explore more in the app, including resources around managing stress and looking after your well being as a parent.

If you are thinking about harming yourself and feeling safe right now, then please seek urgent help by contacting your local emergency number or a crisis support line.